Planning a wedding. One of the most exciting times of a girl’s (or boy’s) life, right?
Well, er…no. Not quite
I was overjoyed when my now-fiancé Peter proposed on Christmas day 2011. We’ve been together since December 2008, and (unavoidable mushy moment coming up…) he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I really can’t wait for our actual wedding day next April and becoming his wife.
But wedding planning is a big bundle of stress.
See, we both work a lot of hours, 6-7 days a week. So when we get time together, the last thing either of us want to do is arrange meetings with caterers, florists or photographers (oh GOD, the horror of finding a photographer is a whole other blog post). Also, we’re both incredibly laid back – probably not the best combination for getting a wedding off the ground.
Say bye bye to new shoes/dresses/fun
Oh, and did I mention the costs? The tight-smile-eye-watering-clenched-buttocks reaction when someone reveals just how much three hours of DJing or basic catering costs? Suddenly, you start evaluating your family and friends based on how much you’d be happy to pay for them to eat. I’m pretty sure this is why so many people fall out over weddings.
There are positives
It’s not all bad. You get to taste lots of cake. You get to try on dresses you’d never usually glance at. You get to find the Cutest Dress In The World for your flower girl. You get to do menu tastings (yes, another food-based perk, guess who’s on a bridal diet?). When I’m really struggling with wedding planning, I hop onto Pinterest and get excited about all the ideas on there. And it’s nice to have something to look forward to next year (plus, hello honeymoon!)
The real root of my wedding worries is that I’m an introverted person. Introverts tend to be drained by being around lots of people for extended amounts of time, while extroverts find that energising. I’m working on making the day as stress-free as possible by organising lots for everyone to do (outdoor garden games, photobooth, table trivia) so the spotlight is off us. But I can see why some people elope (although I can’t see us doing it).
I can see why a lot of women love planning it. In fact, I have a number of friends at the moment enjoying bridal buzz, and fully embrace the whole planning process. That’s fabulous! Even I’m getting a little excited about it now the big decisions are done. Those who are already married rave about the planning process. But I suspect, like childbirth, a lot of brides forget how stressful wedding planning is once the Big Day is over.
So, over the next few months, I’m going to give you the honest views of an introverted bride. I’d love to know whether anyone else struggled with wedding planning?
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