It’s confession time.

My name is (well no, I’m not going to tell you that…) and I’ve never had an orgasm.

Shocking, yes? But I’m sure there are some of you out there feeling a tad better that it’s not just you.

Anne Summers bullet

There are a surprising number of girls who either can’t orgasm, or just haven’t managed to push the right buttons yet. For me, I think I concentrate too much on it to actually get there. The only times I’ve come close have been when it’s just me and my trusty little Ann Summers silver bullet, when there’s nobody around to put on a show for.

Unfortunately, I’m just too scared to tell any boyfriend that really, they just haven’t done it for me yet – every boyfriend I’ve had thinks they’re the first to make me come. Sorry boys! I just feel too bad eventually, and fake it. Every single time. That’s an issue in itself, am I too hung up on pornstar/fictional sex and thinking a guy needs me to come before he can? I know my boyfriend would feel bad if that happened, and I just don’t want him to feel shit every time we have sex. Having a grumpy boyfriend in bed is not going to improve my chances one little bit.

No orgasm

That said, since I don’t know what I’m missing, sex is still great for me. But no amount of different positions, Google searches or toys has made that magic moment come yet. Perhaps I’m just wired wrong, or I’m mentally holding myself back, who knows? But I’m now on a one-woman mission to see those fireworks!

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