It’s the start of a brand new month, and oh look! Here’s Christina again with a peppy post about wellbeing and how it’s good to feel happy and here are all the things you can do to keep smiling EVERY DAY! Look, that’s great. And I mean every single thing I write. Otherwise I wouldn’t write it. But just in case it came across that there’s absolutely no other option than to be happy and positive every single minute of every single day, here’s a newsflash for you: You don’t have to. In fact, you can’t. You’d be superhuman if you could.
And I don’t mean to go the other way entirely and make you feel worse about yourself and about life by pointing out that at least every once in a while, misery happens. But actually, sometimes it does help to acknowledge the obvious: misery happens! And it’s perfectly okay to not only acknowledge that but also to not always be happy and bouncy like a bunny or I don’t know, a hamster with a big bottom (the latest ‘cute’ craze in Japan).
I have depression and I get anxious easily and things worry me all the time, even trivial things that I should not be wasting time worrying about, like – what happens if I run out of lemon squash and the shops are shut or, what happens if the world gets wiped out by a new strain of cholera, or giant hamsters with big bottoms. Or, what happens if in 50 years time I have no savings and I have to live out my old age in a box on the street corner?
It’s quite silly to worry about these things but at the same time, I know that sometimes it will happen, and the same goes for any worry or period of downtime or stress. We all get it. And it’s okay sometimes just to sit with it and let it work through or burn itself out and wait for the proverbial storm to pass over. It always does. I have never yet been in a storm that didn’t end. Otherwise it would still be thundering outside my house right now, and I can tell you with some certainty (I am next to a window) that the sun is out.
There’s no magical happy ending to this blog post, and I’m not going to make a big point or tie up all the loose ends or underline any great lesson that should be learned in Sharpie (you can’t Sharpie a blog post, it turns out). It’s not going to be all neat like that because life is not all neat like that. I just wanted to drop in and say hi and remind you that like it or not, shit happens.
And when it does, there are lots of things you can do to try and feel better – and I will continue to research and discover what those things are and write about them here – but sometimes it’s also okay to be sad for a bit and just stay still and wait. It will pass and you will get to a place where you’re ready to try the happy-making things, but before it does, remember that you’re not bad or wrong for wanting to immerse yourself in a bit of sadness or worry or depression or anger. And it doesn’t make you crazy and you’re not alone in feeling that way.
You will get depressed sometimes and when you do you won’t always want someone acting as cheerleader and telling you to perk up and go do something constructive. You will just want to BE. So just be.
Love from Christina (who sometimes just wants to BE) x
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