Destination weddings are on the rise, but are they really worth the time, money and hassle? Charlotte and Caleigh battle it out.
FOR destination weddings – Charlotte
The first thing people say when you mention you’re planning your wedding is this: ‘Remember it’s your day – you do what’s best for you.’ And I wholeheartedly agree with that. Destination weddings get so much snark and really it’s unfair (not to mention, rude). A couple’s wedding day should express who they are and be a celebration of their relationship. And if that relationship includes a big party in Florence, then that’s the couple’s decision and their decision only.
My friends decided to get married in Greece. It was a small ceremony at a restaurant on a hillside with just family and close friends. Their destination wedding involved all the people that were most important to them, it was in a place that meant something to them, and it ended up being cheaper than having a traditional wedding with 100+ guests. That’s a huge win for the bride and groom in my opinion!
Half the people you invite to your wedding will end up travelling half the country to attend anyway, and spend just as much getting there while paying for hen and stag parties. They might as well make the trip to Florence to make the spend worthwhile and get a tan in the process! Destination weddings also take away some of the ‘invite politics’ that mar many couples’ planning, which is a positive for everyone involved.
AGAINST destination weddings – Caleigh
Destination weddings are an unnecessary stress. Getting married locally means you can pop into potential venues in your lunch hour, arrange meal and cake tastings around your life and and chat to hairdressers and florists in person. I’ve known some brides who’ve walked down the road to their wedding ceremony; they were some of the most relaxed brides I’ve ever known. Besides, the average wedding costs roughly £24,000 which is a crazy amount of money, but destination weddings only come in about £2,000 cheaper than that. I’m not sure the saving is enough to convince me that the extra stress is worth it.
There’s enough pressure involved in organising a wedding without adding the hassle of overseas venues, foreign bureaucracy and travel arrangements. How do the laws surrounding the marriage certificate work at your destination? If the certificate isn’t in English, how do you get a translated version that will satisfy your local registry office? How do you get your dress over, in one piece, and have it arrive at the same time you do? Does it count as carry-on baggage? It’s just all too stressful.
Half the people you invite to your wedding won’t make the trip. While I’m with Charlotte on the fact that destination weddings are a great way around the ‘invite politics’, they’ll also restrict some of the people you actually want to be there. Your favourite great-aunt who’s too frail for a long journey, the best friend with a fear of flying, or your brother, his wife and three kids who just can’t afford the travel costs for the whole family. There will always be someone special that simply can’t make it.
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