You should know this about an alpha woman: they do not, under any circumstances, need saving.

how to date an alpha woman

There is nothing quite as brilliant as a woman with confidence and ambition. Not a trait solely held by alpha women, but a trait every alpha woman holds tight to. I am that woman. Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Lady Gaga, Beyoncé, Hilary Clinton… they are my kinda women. 

Whilst the being of an alpha woman is something rather special, dating one can be hard work if you don’t know your Alpha from your Zebra.

As an alpha chick, I have some advice for how best to date unruly beasts like me…

Give us our god damn space

Alphas crave boundaries. We need something clear to know what you will and will not tolerate, and in return we need you to know our boundaries. 

Learn the difference

There is a difference between us being aloof and slightly intimidating and us being disinterested, believe me. We won’t flatter you simply to inflate your ego. If we ain’t telling you you’re awesome don’t assume it’s because we think you’re shit, maybe we just don’t feel the need to tell you 24/7.

how to date an alpha woman

We respect time

Lateness and laziness won’t go down well. Respect our time, and know that we’ll respect it right back. 

We hurt too

Alpha’s are human. We aren’t superheroes, and we can be vulnerable too. Sure, we’re usually much better than most at concealing our emotions. In fact, chances are we rarely ask for help. But know that we feel just as acutely as everyone else.

Don’t dismiss our silence as rudeness, but please accept that if we say we’re ok we don’t want to be pestered with “oh come on there must be something”. If we want to tell you, we will. 

Don’t Presume

Yes, we might be the boss in the office, but it’ll go a long way with us if you don’t presume we will always want to set the agenda in the relationship. I love it when a guy is confident enough with himself to take control, whether that’s deciding on a movie, restaurant or in fact in bed! 

how to date an alpha woman

I don’t require your validation

Sure I appreciate compliments, but I don’t seek them nor do I live off of them. The only person’s opinion about me that I’m interested in is my own.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dislike hearing I’m beautiful, hilarious or amazing, but know that I know I’m beautiful, hilarious and amazing without you telling me too. 

Also know that there is a difference between self-awareness and arrogance. I don’t think I’m more beautiful, more hilarious or more awesome than anyone else. Not by a long shot. But I am just the right amount of all those things to myself, and that’s all that matters.

So there it is, your low down on dating an alpha woman. Now lads, form an orderly queue. I’ll be accepting applications for the role of ‘sidekick’ in due course! 

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